I recently read a comment on something that talked about how the internet has driven us to celebrate and live in extremes more than ever – and that might not be a good thing. And that observation made a lot of sense to me.
When you think about it, the things that catch our eye are the best bakers, the most amazing travellers, the saddest ladies, the happiest dogs, the fanciest lookers, the meanest humans, the neatest types, the clueless characters etc etc etc. #gasp
But the in-between things – things that are not gobsmacking or brilliant or shocking or WHUT?! – are not really celebrated as much.
I’m talking the regular cooks. The hobby makers. The alright dads. The fairly good mums. The fine writers. The middling gardeners. The good try sporty types. The just-learning photographers etc etc.
Much of the time some sort of mysterious monster called an algorithm steers us to “celebrate the flaws” or “be inspired by the brilliance”. Extremes.
It’s this one extreme or the other QUITE A FREAKING LOT if you think about it. Highs and/or lows. Good and/or bad.
And another thing? It’s annoying that if you are overwhelmed by the perfect we seem to see a lot of – then you’re nudged towards showing off the very IMPERFECT as some kind of antidote. THE OTHER EXTREME. Another extreme. Sigh.
That commenter was right.
It’s a bit of a shame that the in-between has not really had its time to shine, isn’t it?
What about admiring the JUST FINE THANK YOU or the QUITE GOOD or the ON THE IMPROVE?
Noticing the extremes all the time MIGHT mean that we’re also always noticing the distance between us and them too. A sort of “I’ll never be that good” or an “I’ll never be that shit” type of situation.
It’s not all (extreme) doom and gloom though because when you think about it, somewhere in the middle is where pretty much EVERYONE lives. (Except for an amazing, prodigious few!) It’s all smoke and mirrors a lot of the time. The oft-touted highlights reel.
Even people who do one perfect thing – or one thing very crappily, at the other extreme – are simply OKAY at lots of other things. The distance might not be as vast as we think, at least some of the time. I like this idea very much.
I am gonna try not to be so drawn in by the extremes as a default. And to notice the other bits in the spectrum too. To watch out for the MIDDLE and the FINE and the GOOD ONE CHAMP as well.
Spark a sort of gentler, balanced, okay-noticing algorithm of my own design, if you will. Because the in-between rules too.
And that’s the end!
PS: I still love that leaf photo!
PPS: Sorry if there are typos. I do try.