Hope things are good with you. Things are okay with me. It’s been a bit of a rough week, but I am hopeful that it’s all going to turn around. There’s been some discussion online – in the online community I am part of – partly about same sex marriage and rainbows – but really, actually about identity, sexuality and sin.
I’m all for people having their own beliefs and opinions, but when those beliefs insult, dismiss or diminish a whole variety of people in our community I find it hard to bear. I think it’s not particularly kind or okay to beam discriminatory views loudly and repeatedly into the world, pretending that it’s not hurting others.
It’s good to take every person on their own merits. I don’t like the bundling up groups of ‘like’ people and judging them harshly.
It’s been a pretty difficult time to navigate – for everyone involved – and everyone who has witnessed the related exchanges. I feel upset for all parties really. Those who judge and those who are being judged. It’s all pretty ugly and not very loving. I even lost a friend over it all, which is sad for us both. Luckily I have a gang of great people around me to talk things through with. That’s really helped.
The thing is, this is not really about me. It’s about the happiness and wellbeing of those around us and future generations.
The kids and young adults I know are defining their identity, sexuality and gender in their own ways. I think they’re amazing and am learning a lot from the path they are clearing. There’s nothing more wholesome and admirable than self-awareness and self acceptance and many of them are living or working towards that.
It breaks my heart that they may encounter the blanket judgement of (some) others – whatever guise that may be in. Here’s some information on just how difficult it can be. Here’s a view from the inside, from Sash. I feel that it’s important to encourage tolerance and kindness and acceptance because I want our kids to have a future that’s free of this ‘othering’ and disrespect.
One thing I have learnt is that I totally take my own status for granted. I am operating from a privileged position, appearing fairly innocuous, generally. I’m pretty vanilla. A kind of edgier cup-cake. I knew, of course, that discrimination and disrespect was fairly rife, but I hadn’t thought much about my own cosy nest, away from that kind of treatment and how it’s my comfy default.
It made me realise how important it is to speak up from our comfy spots for those that are facing intolerance. I’m really going to try to do that more. I think it’s nice to be nice, but it’s more important to be strong and support people who are experiencing discrimination.
Aside from that, I’ve been having a pretty interesting time working out the whole one-kid-living at home thing. Ari and I have been having lots of chats. I’ve been getting more sleep. And I’m thinking about Max and Rin a lot more than I ever have. On the weekend we hit the shops with Max and bought groceries. Then we want back to his house and made Bolognese sauce together. This weekend I’m taking over a slow cooker, rice cooker and jaffle maker. We’re going to make chilli beans and rice, I think.
Even though it’s hard to get used to, we’re creating some new ways of being together, which is such a nice bonus. (And yesterday all the kids came back/over for band practice upstairs, just like the old days! It was neat!)
Making : a loom with Annabel Wrigley
Cooking : a lot of toast, especially Vegemite toast (hey Lexi!) Probably that doesn’t count as cooking…
Drinking : many cups of tea, a little bit of coffee, lots of mineral water
Reading: Useful by Debra Oswald
Wanting: some breakfast
Looking: at a little jar of daphne
Playing: a game where I imagine going to Coburg and eating falafel
Deciding: what to do first today
Wishing: I could go back to bed
Enjoying: hanging out with Ari
Waiting: for a package from Amazon
Liking: my fresh new blog design
Wondering: if I should help Cam with our packing
Loving: staying here in front of theatre instead
Pondering: ‘if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen’
Considering: what a good egg Rayna is
Buying: nothing much because we need to save our pennies for the move
Watching: Wayward Pines and The Bachelorette
Hoping: we find a nice, cosy, bright house
Marvelling: at how different people are
Cringing: at how different people are
Needing: a shot of energy
Questioning: Ari. (Have you got a jacket, toots?)
Wearing: uggs and cosy wear in general
Following: Erin Made This
Noticing: we haven’t really had much rain this Winter
Knowing: I’ve got things under control, mostly
Thinking: my Nan must be freezing today. It’s so cold.
Admiring: Carly and her steady resolve
Sorting: my entire house out
Getting: coffee? That would be good.
Bookmarking: the post about Sarah’s new book
Coveting: a fireplace. In my house-to-be, perhaps?
Disliking: my country’s treatment of asylum seekers
Opening: a card from my Mum. Thanks Mum!
Giggling: at The Real Housewives Of New York
Feeling: sick. I have come down with shingles. Oh joy.
Snacking: on arancini made from mushroom risotto
Helping: my new students work out what they want from their blogs
Hearing: all of the chirpy birds
And here’s a blank list for you to copy and paste so you CAN join in…
Let me know in the comments if you ‘Take Stock’ too? Love to you!